How we’re not defined as a family by our son’s special needs

When I started writing about our life with Travis in 2010, he was two years old and I’d never been more miserable, desperate and heartbroken. I was newly married, and our first-born was mentally challenged and physically disabled, and more immediately… he didn’t sleep and he wouldn’t eat.I would wake up each morning and know my future, long-term – our future as a family – was trashed. There’s no other word for it really. And in the short-term, I had to deal with a baby whose eyes couldn’t focus on my face when I spoke words of love, who didn’t […]


Bacon-pecan crumble with caramel nectarines? Yes, please!

Sponsored post I don’t know about you guys, but I watch a lot of cooking shows on TV. I’m a fountain of completely useless information, like the proper method for stretching the gluten in your home-made phyllo pastry and how to get your butter to room temperature without putting it into the microwave. So when Nutrific invited me to a breakfast cook-off with chef Matt Manning, I was pretty sure I had it nailed. (Plus, Nutrific has this website with literally 1000 ways to eat Nutrific biscuits. Can you imagine being the copywriter and food stylist on that gig? It’s […]


Travis is nine years old, but it’s hard to pinpoint how old he is, intellectually. Sometimes I tell people it’s 18 months. Sometimes I say he has the mind of a 2-year-old. The truth is I’m guessing. I don’t know what’s going on in there – but to say he’s at the level of a 3-year-old seems like a stretch. After all, Travis has a brother about that age, and Oliver is light years ahead of Travis physically, mentally and emotionally. But I wonder if I’m doing our Lionheart a disservice by trying to pin a label on his brain. […]


This year I’m going to #playmore

Sponsored post Being a working mom is hard, and running your own company is even harder – because, in a way, you become everybody’s mom. So much so, that sometimes I forget who my real family is. That was hard to write, but it’s true. For the last three years, I have been pushing and pushing and PUSHING at work, sacrificing so much of my time and attention in the hopes that I can build something for my family. I tell myself that I don’t have the luxury of “switching off”, that it will pay off big in the end. […]


Just in time for Christmas, our top five favourite LEGO Duplo sets…

The boys have had a ball (or maybe, a “block”) being LEGO Duplo ambassadors this year. We racked and stacked and bashed and built enough LEGO constructions to last a lifetime. Kidding. You can never get tired of playing with LEGO. I asked the kids what their favourite LEGO Dupo sets have been so far, and which ones they’ve asked Father Christmas to bring them. This is the ultimate list for grannies and grandpas, aunties and uncles, and anyone who wants to make this Christmas the best ever for little LEGO lovers. 1. Lego Duplo Mickey Mouse Oh, Toodles! The […]


The first 1,000 days matter most and why Mama Martha is amazing

We all know that it’s important for our kids to eat well, get their vitamins in and lay off the sugary treats. But you might not know just how important those first 1,000 days of a child’s life are when it comes to nutrition. Also: did you know that those 1,000 days kick off the moment you fall pregnant? I didn’t know that. I’ll tell you who does know: Mama Martha. She runs the most amazing crèche in Gugulethu, and I paid a visit with fellow bloggers Cindy Alfino – oh, she of the pink hair and hilarious Snaps, and The […]


Win a Paw Patrol Zoomer Marshall worth R2000!

THIS COMPETITION IS NOW CLOSED. The winner is: CHRIS L OOSTHUIZEN! Congrats. This is the true story of how I won the Mom of the Year Award. It started with an email from Just Fun Kidz, asking if Ryan and Oliver wanted to review the new Paw Patrol Zoomer Marshall on their YouTube channel, The Mighty Squish. And it ended, well… it hasn’t ended at all, really because the boys have been playing with their pet non-stop for weeks now. Even Travis the Lionheart has been curious about the pup that has been roaming the house!   If you’re looking for […]


Death by Chocolate Cake, take four slabs of chocolate…

If you were a cake, what kind of cake would you be? I’d be this extra-chocolatey, super-dense dark chocolate Bundt cake! Because if you’re going to bake a chocolate cake, then this “light and fluffy” business will just not do. Death by Chocolate Cake Ingredients For the sponge 250g butter 1 tsp vanilla essence 1.5 cups of brewed coffee 2 x 80g slabs dark or milk chocolate 400g sugar 2 eggs 180g self-raising flour, sifted 20g cocoa, sifted   For the ganache 2 x 80g slabs dark or milk chocolate 3/4 cup of cream Splash of Tia Maria (optional)   […]


Looking for a birthday present for the little squish in your life?

Sponsored post Finally, I have the answer to that question I see on Facebook all the time. “It’s my niece-nephew-godchild’s first birthday party, and I don’t know what to get as a present.” This is the answer: their first set of LEGO! Be the cool auntie or uncle and This is the answer: their first LEGO! Everyone wants to be the cool auntie or uncle, and buy their little squish some Lego. But then you go into the toy shop and look around and yup, it’s overwhelming. As a rule of thumb, you want to be buying the bigger blocks – […]

Something happened, and it’s changed the way I blog

I’ve been wanting to write this for a while because I feel like I owe some of my older readers an explanation. Explaining why this blog isn’t anything like the old There’s a Lionheart in our Bath Tub. If that name doesn’t mean anything to you, you can go ahead and skip this post. The old Stacey used to write gut-wrenching, soulful posts about raising a child with special needs. She was sarcastic, she was sad and lonely, and she spilled her guts all over the internet. People loved this spilling of guts. It made them feel like it was okay […]